Davit,
It's hard to ignore the retirement invitations, but I've connected them to my spam folder, which I still have to check. I have to check since some "wanted" emails go there anyway.
Also, I might go to a funeral, of a particular person or two, who I do respect, but I've left the others in the past, to the degree that I can.
Another connected trigger for my anger was that I'd made a suggestion to a local civic employee, and they ignored me 4 times(3 emails and voicemail), so I wrote to the boss, and finally got a response, but without admitting that I'd been ignored. The reason, I believe, for not admitting there was any error, was there had been a regional scandal, highest level dismissal and revocation of a false credential.
All I was trying to do was make a suggestion, and actually be thanked, and I was thanked. What I did was channel my anger by being assertive for a change, and I actually got a response! I also had checked the pay levels of the people in the system I was writing to, and there were millions of dollars of tax payer money in salaries, let alone projects which were being planned, as the tax payers quietly just live their work and "trust" the civil servants.
Maybe the real trigger here is when I do something which competes, rather than supports my priorities. I don't have time for civic engagement, so I guess I slipped. What I've done is start a bucket list, for when I have more time, and caregiving is over.
It's not cynical to think there is a lot of apathy in the civil service, unless it's pay day, or there's a missing nickel on a paycheck, and then there's interest.
