Past memory (even only minutes in the past) dictates how you act or react. Core beliefs dictate how and where you store these memories and how and when you use them. Since they recycle back to memory it can be hard to change core beliefs. It can be hard to recognize them even, if they have formed a routine.
Building on Davit's point about core beliefs, isn't really not about pleasing or performance, but about our core beliefs? The outward behavior is the reflection of our inner thoughts. Whether I'm an elite athlete, or simple pedestrian, my thoughts trigger the anxiety, not whether I'm matching the finish line in a race or running to catch the bus but my response
I think everyone has had these fears at
one point or another. It takes time to build confidence in yourself and
your work. Davit is absolutely right, core beliefs can effect your
confidence and your anxiety. Working on the entire program will help
with some of these fears. Focusing on the session on Challenging
Negativitywill help you challenge the negative thoughts that make you question yourself.
I found it difficult to separate people pleasing from performance. Performance should come first. Performance should be enough. People pleasing and second guessing can take me away from performance. I prefer to work where I am noticed for what I do, not who I am or know.
Take the time to look at your performance from your eye only. Are you good enough? Is it enough? And here is the big one, would you be happy with who you are and what you do if it only mattered to you? If you find anything lacking that is where you spend time. Everything else will fall into place.
How much do you know about core beliefs, they effect performance.
