I do not know if I am a perfectionist but I know I hate to procrastinate. I have been also thinking that it might be that seasonal depression. I am trying to think about what I like and what I would LOVE to do and I cannot think of anything. This is not normal. I will work on this this week.
Great work! I understand feeling sorry for yourself is not helpful, especially when castrophizing or using negative core beliefs. I do want to say though, it is always helpful to have self-compassion. You are allowed to be sad and bored sometimes. Working from home can be great in a lot of ways, but it also can be very tough due to loneliness and boredom. So please give yourself some self-compassion where required.
Interesting observations about routine. I agree, routine is so important when working from home. Guilt is also such a tough one. I find many people who regularly feel guilty are often perfectionists. Interestingly, often perfectionists have trouble with procrastination because certain tasks can seem too daunting. Not sure if perfectionism applies to you; I thought I would share my thoughts in case you could relate.
One of them was my relation with my ex-husband. I forgave him and we splitted so this one is done. The other reasons were related to boredom, feeling of powerlessness, frustration of not being able to do what I wanted when I wanted.
I am trying to keep busy, stop being sorry about myself, think about the future and not staying still in the present moment if I do not like this present moment. I must admit it is not always easy and I am still working on it, especially the boredomness. I always worked from home and if I seat to do something that is not related to work, I feel guilty. I know I have to change my routine, work so many hours per day and then close the door. I realized that I am not productive anyway when I am in this mindset. I just do not concentrate on my work. That is my main problem I have to work on now.
That is what I thought. It is similar. First step is to decide if you want to stop or decrease your consumption, write a log of your consumption.
There is a very interesting part about the triggers, how to evaluate it (they say there are mainly 3 categories), problem solving, etc. I liked the little cards about description about the temptation. Time of the day, where, who was I with, what were my feelings at the moment of the craving, what did I tell myself at that moment, what did I do to resist and did it work or not.
It was very interesting to see what I wrote. I realized the cause were the same as 20 years ago and they are the reasons I am working on now.
Thank you for posting. We have actually have worked with CAMH, so it is so interesting that you mention them now. I wonder if the book is similar in some ways to the program we have here? Did you notice any similarities?
If any other members would like to recommend books please do so.
I was going through my drawer and found a book I bought in 2000 when I realized I had to stop drinking. I guess I was a little slow, Just stopped in 2019 :-)
The book is called Saying When. It is written by Martha Sanchez Craig who work for the Addiction Research Foundation of Ontario. It is also available in French. It is a five steps program. It is well done and I used it at the time to decrease my consumption. It gives practical tips about saying no, dealing with our triggers, etc.
