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The awful spiral...feel bad and then feel guilty about feeling bad...feed worse etc. I agree. It's best to accept the way you feel and not try to argue with yourself about it. Then, if you can, set it aside and start by doing one thing. For example, mornings come when I do not want to do anything, go anywhere. I start by getting out of bed. It sounds so ridiculous but sometimes that is a major accomplishment. I don't think beyond that until I am standing next to the bed. Next step might be take a shower or brush my teeth and that's all I think about until it's done. Step by step, little by little. There are days when I have the ability to stop anywhere along the process. Other days when there are things I have to do I inch my way along, breaking everything up into manageable little pieces. Sometimes I curse the process but usually when I accomplish something, no matter how insignificant it may seem, I feel a little better. Sometimes just getting up and getting moving will lighten my mood a bit.
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tess i agree with u. i do the same thing. i tell myself ok u feel bad...admit it and let it be what it is. it does seem to help it "pass" faster if i allow myself to feel instead of trying to pretend. i use to think that crying was weak and i hated myself and had thoughts of hurting myself when i cried. i thought i was a failure and worthless. i know just accept it is happening and go with it. i allow myself to feel what i am feeling. i spend 10 hours a day at work pretending i am ok...when i get home i need to let go. ya know what i mean? i live a duality of sorts so its nice to know i can finally allow myself to just feel what i feel and not judge myself or think im bad in any way. what a great post from u. thanks for sharing that. take care
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Tess I love your posting...keep writing...you have touched my life in a positive way. Thanks bob
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Hi Sandy I have been in just the same space you are in right now. One of the best things is if you have a friend you can let know how down you are - maybe its this site - but I think that can help. It helped me. It felt like I had reached out - and that is a good thing to do. The other thing I did at a really low ebb one day was I accepted I felt "ill". It was a saturday I think (a day I "have to" "go do loads of things" in a "driven way"). I just said to myself -I feel ill - I had very very low self esteem - very full of self harm thoughts and crying a lot, life pointless etc etc. So I said to myself - OK I am going to pretend its flu - and I am going to allow myself to feel this awful for today - maybe I am allowed to "be ill". It worked - big sigh of relief - I stopped giving myself a hard time and saying to myself for g*d's sake get out there and do something - make something of yourself - you are useless etc etc can't even get to work on time for goodnes sake! etc etc. And just one day off those negative nasty thoughts was useful. Even 1 hour off them is good. I think you could be allowed to feel that way. Imagine you were your friend - you might say to her - its ok to feel like this - do what you can and have a rest and don't give yourself a hard time for it. You are in fact allowed to feel this awful and it will get better one day. I found when I did take a day off from the negative thoughts I got some peace and a little energy back to do something - even if a small thing - for me that might be having a shower and washing my hair. Or doodling in a book? reading a magaizne in bed with a cup of tea? or putting half a load of washing in the machine! (my exciting life huh!?) I hope this is useful. A psychologist once told me that when we are deprtessed or have low mood or how you described yourself - that it was an opportunity to be awesomely tender to yourelf. So that would be my advice. be awesomly tender to yourself. Tess
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I don't think anyone has ever thought themselves better. As horrible as it can be, doing some of the things that you really don't want to do while depressed is the best thing you can do. I have to force myself to be around people because it does make me feel better even though part of me is really anxious. I have to force myself to exercise when I want to lay in bed. My brain tells me that everything is worthless and that there is no point in doing anything - that is exactly when I have to do something. It doesn't always help. It is not always possible. Sometimes it is like raising yourself up by almost inperceptible amounts every day and you don't even know that you have risen sometimes until months when you look back.
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Sandy, I have found that feelings do not change until I get moving. We want to feel better so we can do things but I don't feel better until after I do things. I guess that action is the key and that sometimes seems so hard if you don't feel like being active. SueBee
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sandy its a roller coaster ride for me. i am not on meds...have tried, but stopped some time ago. try exercise...push yourself..take small steps. i have taken up digital photography lately and that also pushes me to exercise as i search for photos in the hood or whereever. also it takes my mind off myself and into a creative zone. change your routine...get out into the wilderness for a hike. read about cognitive behaviour therapy..see if you can apply some of it. practise breathing and muscle tensing exercies. write a journal...write poetry..or something that seems like poetry. pray whether you know anything about God or not. smile at people..say nice things to them. The above are some of the things i am working on...seems to help somewhat take care bob
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Can anyone give me some kind of advice on how to get motivated and to get the energy to get out of this dark rut that I am in?? I am tryingt of ind someone to talk to and am on new meds now cause the doc switched me but man I have no motivation to do anything but sleep....worry to much..anxious...have to literally push myself to go to work sometimes...cry alll the time...very very sad that I cant be happy for some reason...how do some of you try to stay focused to help get you out of the hole little by little?? Thanks for your help Sandy

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