OK here's an example sort of. The question of the day was, why do I start things and never finish them? I've been asking myself this for ages because it really ****es me off that I keep starting things-jobs, books, working out, saving money etc etc and then before I get anywhere with it, I stop and revert back to bad habits. I dismissed it as getting bored or not having enough self control but it's enough to make my life a whole lot worse so I kept analyzing it and came up with I know I can do these things- I know I can, so why do I have to prove I can do them? (another weird way my brain works) Then the ball dropped, it's not about proving I can do them, it's about bettering myself but I'm obviously so prone to rebelling against everything that I subconciously was thinking that the only reason I needed to do those things was to prove I could and knowing that I could was preventing me from actually doing them. So now, I'm doing things to better my life, not to prove I can do them and not for other people and then another ball dropped- I've been wasting my time thinking I needed to prove myself to the world because I want everyone to love me and in the mean time I'm not accomplishing anything and I'm not doing anything to better myself and guess what-everyone doesn't love me so I need to love myself. So, in my crazy ranting I've gone from not finishing what I started to loving myself and changing my goals. Will it make my life easier and will it give me some peace? I think so, I guess it is to the point where I just have to try everything and try looking at every aspect of every issue and addressing it from a different angle. I hope this doesn't sound confusing because I have it worked out in my head. I guess bottom line is, try tackling things from a completely different angle and sometimes you might get it right.
