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jeep baby this is a great oppurtunity to get things off your chest....to be honest. and you will often receive some very supportive feedback and excellent input. no-one is taking anything from you here. everyone is giving to you. there also seems to be a high level of compassion and intelligence on this site. i feel very fortunate to have found this space. It helps me slog through my life day by day...and ocassionally it will put a smile on my face. hope to hear from you again take care bob
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Jeep, You have come to the right place! Please feel free to roam the site at your own pace. If you look to the left of the screen under "TOOLS" you will find our Depression Test. This test is not a diagnostic tool and is not a replacement or substitute for a physician's advice. The purpose of these tests is to prepare you with information that you can present to your physician. When you're finished the test, you can either print your Final Report or email it directly to your doctor. This may help better assess the situation. If you have any question or concerns with our site or please contact Support Department at support@depressioncenter.net. We are open to any questions or concerns you may have. Looking forward to hearing from you soon! Josie ___________________________________ The Depression Center Support Team.
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:8o: Hi I'm new here. It has amazed me that I am not the only one who feels like that in public. It's actually killing me to write anything to people I don't know but hey you have to start somewhere right?
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bob47, unrequited & Poes.... Thank you for your responses. I found some good advice here. I used to see a psychiatrist when I was very messed up. But I have never been treated for social phobia. I am going to see how I do at church and go from there. I have been isolated at home for many years; afraid to be around people. If I have trouble at church I will see a professional and not just isolate myself. I also have ADD so I have more than one disorder to work on. I will have to promise myself to dismiss myself from social situations whenever I feel uneasy or threatened. Bob47... I truly feel for you regarding your summer guests. Doesn't your wife consider your needs before agreeing on having guests over?
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poes thanks for you insights. i suppose if we blame ourselves in a social situation where we experience phobia, then we add to our stress and probably to our reaction. putting guests in a hotel certainly has merit also take care bob
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Hi Bob and Jenn, Why are we always willing to blame ourselves so quickly? Here is something I heard that might put a different and more appreciated view on social phobia. What if....people that get overwelmed by other people are just very sensitive people. What if these people are so sensitive that they pick up the emotions of the people around them?? I think it was Ladyblue who mentioned that before and I think she is right in that. I can not be in a mall for very long. The impressions, the sounds, the emotions, they get too much for me after a while. If I stay beyond my balance, I will leave completely in a panic, crying and upset. So, why would I force myself into situations like that? That does not mean I need some type of therapy so that I can force myself beyond my limitations, but it may mean that I need therapy for accepting that I get that around people, that that is a part of me and that that is okay. We all have different feelings of balance at different times during the day or week or year. Getting in touch with yourself gives you the opportunity to feel your balance and than feel when you are getting out of balance. When I feel I get out of balance, I withdraw from the situation. That can mean I withdraw from social life for a few weeks and I do not mean physically perse, since we all need to go to work. But I do build a border and people are not allowed to cross. What people think of that.....oh well, that has become so irrelevant to me. It more important what I think of that. Jenn, you do not have to be hugged if you do not want to be hugged. You have the right to withdraw from that kind of activity and still enjoy going to church. By the way, Bob.....having people live with you for a few weeks during the summer, sounds awful to me. How about booking them a nice hotelroom in town, that way you can still enjoy their company without going over your limitations.
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Jenn; I take medications to cope with my unreasonable emotional reactions to things like social phobia. I never got hugged in church much, usually I am trying to help someone else who is depressed and I am doing the hugging. If I go off my meds, I will be crying at the slightest thing and embarrass myself, so I don't want to go off them anymore. It can sometimes still be bad even with meds. I have a blushing problem around men I respect too. Everyone takes it the wrong way. Then I get messed up. I hope you can get some help to improve your situation, whatever kind of help that is. I could understand being hugged too much; it reminds me of my grandfather who was kind of perverted. He used to hug me as if I was his girlfriend instead of his grandchild. That was because I reminded him of an affair he had with a young girl when he was young, and that was with my father's birth mother. He said I was just like her. So finally I looked for her and found her. That's another story. But I think a person knows the difference between a friendly hug, and a more sexually inspired hug, and I still have that awful memory. So maybe something about the hugging is triggering you off, or perhaps you are just more intuitive than outgoing. Anyway, I feel for you. I often want to leave church immediately after for other reasons. I am afraid nobody likes me. So I keep reminding myself why I go in the first place, and try to forget the mistakes that others make, because that's what we're supposed to do, right?
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jenn it seems that your social phobia is more pronounced than mine. do you get therapy and or medication? if you work..how do you cope there? take care. bob
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[font=Comic Sans MS]Text[/font] Hi.... social phobia is something I have had to deal with for a long time. I used to be in church a lot and most every Sunay on the way home I would be hyper ventilating and crying. Being around alot of people makes my head spin. They make me have panic attacks. Their hugs get overwhelming. I like to hug but too much of it makes me woozy. I get overwhelmed by all the conversations. I can barely keep up without going off into space somewhere. Then I panic when I realize I haven't been listening. I dropped out of church several years ago over this. I am just now going back and so far it's bearable. However when some of the hugs were too huge I felt scared. That makes me want to run. I must learn ways to alleviate these stressors. How about deep breathing? That could help. Any other suggestions?
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hi yep i think i am somewhat manic and obsessed with whatever i'm into at the moment. i need to be more balanced in my approach to life. this site and at the moment photography gives me a chance to procrastinate from another stressful, but necessary task. thanks for your comments. bob

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