THANKYOU PEANUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Babygirl, You are in a very tough position. Understand the love you have for your boyfriend. However, your love for yourself needs to come first. If you are not on the road to getting yourself better, then you can not help your boyfriend. I am sure it's been a long and rough road. However, you really need to keep trying to find a doctor that fits you. You will know it when you meet that doctor. You'll feel totally comfortable that you can just let everything out. I must agree that the verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse. Those scares are deeper inside of us. If the abuse continues, you are going to have to seriously think if the relationship is worth trying to keep it. However, not matter how much your boyfriend says he is going to change, both of you need to have some counseling both together and seperate. Also you need to be healthy for yourself. Another thought. If you were to leave your boyfriend to get yourself better, it may make hime realize how much he has hurt you. Then he may just find the courage to change. Good luck, be safe. God will be watching over you. Peanut

Babygirl, By your post, I do believe that you truly know what to do. Right now in your life, you need to focus on yourself and getting yourself healthy. You need to be selfish and take care of your needs before anyone else. No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship, verbal, physical or anything else. I would strongly suggest you seek a therapist, so you can express your feelings and come up with a plan on how to sort everything out. Good Luck, Melanie _________________________________ The Depression Center Support Team

Can someone please respond? I need your input and help please. Thankyou My name is Christine. I hope I made some sense on my last post. Babygirl921 is where u can find me I think?

Here is goes! My bf and I have broken up about 12 or maybe 10 times and I always have to leave the house 'cause it is his and even cops were called for domesti violence. Well..long story. He bacame very ill and I decided to come back after his lung surgery; it collapsed. I could never do enough and going back and forth to the hospital and then reporting to his parents in Fla. Strange, I am not allowed or he hasn't asked me to see his two sons from his previous marriage and they are fully grown. Never met his Uncle Jimmy who was so great I understand and then Uncle Jimmy died. At that time my bf started lying to me about the fact that he was separated for 7 years and SHE lived close by. She occassionally came over when I was kicked out to help him pay his bills (not with money) but by balancing his check book and filing stuff. He depended on her for 30 years and then she stole a LOT of money from him after like 25 years ; so he kicked her out. Anyway, at first I was clueless as I thought he was single and now found out he is still legally married to this woman that took his money. From then on, I was told he was never the same. He didn't date for about 6 years and visited kids only if SHE allowed him too. I do know he is a Vet from Nam and has a temmper and then he has a sweet side. I finally came back after leaving as he was drinking all the time and abusing me. I told him to stop and he wouldn't. He also at that time got a puppy who is didn't know how to train and I said I would train him But HE decided to train the dog in a strange manner where no discipline was involved and finally got rid of the dog. Well he had to stop drinking only because he got Hep C and had to go thru a bunch of pills, shots he took himself, etc. Then He went to all kinds of physical MD's wanting to know why he wasn't getting better. And starting fights with doctors and management. His primary doc. has known him for over 30 years and is telling him to stop worrying about everything and maybe seek psych or therapy help. I feel he needs meds but he refuses to take anything that would alter your mind. Very Stubborn hah. Now, I still have not met his sons, he is divorced for almost a year and he doesn't call his mom or dad and I'm not sure why? Sometimes he says, I

Thankyou Melanie. TY Christine

Babygirl, Thank you once again for sharing your story. Right now it is important to surround yourself with people who are supportive of you. You need positive reinforcement, not negative. I think that at this point it would be wise to visit the therapist again, this may be beneficial to you and your situation. Please, do not let anyone verbally abuse you. Verbal abuse is unproductie and unhealthy. Please stay strong. Take Care, Melanie __________________________________ The Depression Center Support Team

Be wary of verbal abuse. It is incidious and leaves deeper scars than we realize. The way I see it, and it is just my opinion, we feel badly enough about ourselves that we don't need someone else eroding our self-esteem.

[b]Text[/b][color=Teal]Text[/color] I've had it with 10 years of doctors, therapists and pills! I want to get better but I can't. My boyfriend tells me all the the time to shape up and yells; so that gets me worse. I have a small disability check and almost out of money now. Can't work even tho I worked for over 30 years!! Panic Attacks, Agoraphobia, Deep Depression and Anxiety, memory laps and I donno what else. My boyfriend wants me to pay half the bills and soon I won't be able. I donno what to do? He is sick now, physically and I must take care of him which even makes me worse. Anyone out there, please help!!! Christine PS Also there is Verbal Abuse now and I still love him as I know he is very frustrated cause he had to go on disability too. He is physically ill with many problems. Please respond..