Nanc,
I too deal with verbal abuse. What my therapist has tried to get me to do is see myself as God sees me, Forgiven of my failures, loved and valued. What anyone else thinks of me doesn't matter. I have to find value in who I am as a person. It has been very hard for me to find value in myself but I am working on it and finding that it helps. When your husband says something to you that is hurtful, say to yourself, "I know who I am and I am a beautiful creation to God and He has a wonderful plan for my life so I will not allow myself to be beat down by what my husband says to me but rather I will choose to believe the good about myself." Try to surround yourself with friends who can help you see the value in yourself. It's very hard to go through depression and if you haven't been through it you just simply don't understand. Your husband probably does not fully grasp how much it hurts and how sick it makes a person.
I think that your husband going to see the therapist is a great move. Sometimes hearing how hard depression is from someone else, especially a professional, can help others understand a little better. I would encourage you, if he is willing to get couple counseling in addition to your one on one counseling sessions.
We are here for you.
momofthree
