This is just my experience. Pick what you want out of it. I've had a few relationships. When I was young I thought I would never have one. My brother was hollywood hansom, two years older than me and had a car. I was ugly as sin (I thought) and only had brains going for me. Girls went through me to get close to him. My first serious relationship was his ex wife who got tired of him and left him. I knew this was one girl I wouldn't lose to him. I lost her to someone else. It took a dozen years though and in her case the grass still looked greener on the other side of the fence. Next relationship was for convenience. It didn't last. After that came anxiety that had little to do with the relationships. I thought living with someone with anxiety would be the answer. Well it doesn't if you are not compatible still. I'm a recluse of sorts. I didn't want to go to noisy affairs even if I could do it on pills. So she left. Next one was compatible sort of, but not enough, so it didn't matter that she understood anxiety.
So I think if you are trying to fit to someone you will just increase the anxiety. But if you are very compatible it will matter little if there is anxiety and your partner doesn't understand because there won't be as much pressure. Besides anxiety can be cured. Think how good life would be to be compatible and anxious free. I'd try again if I could find some one compatible. Unfortunately few want the quiet life.
It has been a very long time since I have been in a relationship...and unfortunately it predates my anxiety. However, I know how you feel about seeing your friends starting relationships and doing "couples things". All my good friends from home are married and have kids, but I'm still single. Sometimes I'm okay with that....sometimes I'm not.
However, I worry that if I do have a relationship, that my anxiety would also hinder it. While I'm not agoraphobic, I really don't like going out to parties, clubs, etc. I'm much more comfortable with just a few people, sitting around chatting or watching a movie. I'm NOT a social person. Now, I simply don't go out and it can be very lonely.
I hope you don't let your anxiety hold you back. If you are honest and explain to the person you are dating that you have anxiety, if they really care about you, it shouldn't matter to them.
I'm currently single, but I notice a lot of my friends are getting into relationships and doing couple things. I notice this is starting to affect my anxiety. I am in a point where I could get into a relationship, but I'm so afraid of what the person would think if I had a panic attack in front of them. I don't know, I just know that seeing my friends happy and me having this big obstacle seems to be giving me negative thoughts. Does anyone have any insight for me?
