Digging In Digging in is what happens when both people in a dispute refuse to change their position. The result is a stand-off in which neither person is willing to back down because of a rigid and moralistic position, belief that they are 100% right, pride or the belief that if they give in they will be taken advantage of.
Some relationships can get to a point where most disputes end with both people digging in. Both people start to see all of their disputes in terms of winning or losing and both start to keep track of wins and losses. This pattern is extremely harmful to relationships because people start to lose trust and the willingness to compromise. Relationships without trust and compromise usually aren’t very happy and don’t last very long. The solution to this problem is to get better at perspective taking and compromising.
The answer to most of these problems in communication is to develop a more assertive communication style.
