Hi Randy,
I'm probably not the best person to ask. We live right across the street from the beach, we love living here.
The Grand Tetons sound wonderful, but from your post, it sounds as though you have at least 2 things going against your plans:
1)The relatively long journey may aggravate your OCD disorder. How long will you actually be able to enjoy the trip while there, given the round trip? I'd hate to hear you had to turn around and no one enjoy a vacation.
2)your wife sounds like she doesn't want to go. Believe me, "if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy".
Could the family make a compromise to a third destination? Say 400-500 miles instead? Give the kids a vote, too.
Given the choice you already have, not everyone will be happy.
Hope this helps you.
Della