hi davit,
it shouldn't matter since i'm happy, but the thing is, i'm a sensitive person
and the things that they say are hurtful.
and yes, i would say they are negative because they keep pushing me to do
things the way they want me to, instead of accepting that this is how i do things.
if i politely say no, i'm not going to do things they want me to, they continue to
criticize and badger me and tell me i'm being a bad daughter or i'm being immature.
for example, my mother was criticizing my appearance and i told her in a
civil manner, i'm not changing it and please back off, i'm an adult and i make my own
decisions. despite this, she continued to criticize me and then went on to criticize other
aspects of my personality and my life.
my family has continually criticized me and when i do not do what they say, they
find some way to manipulate me into doing it. i have not found any way to resolve this.