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for 8 år siden 0 +0 / -0 113

Oh NoDrama! I'm reaching through the computer to give you a virtual hug, my friend!!!!

I'm sorry to hear you had a slip and ended up having a bad night. Moderation is just so hard! It seemed like such a great idea to me, I could have a drink here and there, but it was just soooo much harder than just quitting altogether.

At first it was very scary, thinking NO ALCOHOL EVER???? How? How will I explain this at gatherings? How will I deal with my anxiety, etc.? How will I relax when I need to de-stress? SERIOUSLY... NEVER AGAIN???

Well, one by one I have done all of these things without drinking. And it was surprisingly easier than moderating! When I don't drink at all, there is no hyper-vigilant planning, or dealing with urges when alcohol is around, no forcing myself to stop when I'm buzzed and wanting MORE MORE MORE. The hamster wheel is gone. It's very freeing once you get through the first couple weeks, encounters, declarations of 'No, thanks... I don't want a drink.'

YOU GOT THIS, MY FRIEND!!!

for 8 år siden 0 +0 / -0 348

Nodrama,

I read through some of your recent posts and I sorry you are having a bad time. However, I agree with everything Julie said! You can do this and believe me, it will be worth it. Stick with it and you too will find that life is so much better with alcohol. Doesn't mean it is an easy road but it is definitely worth it!

Sending support your way!

Lynn

for 8 år siden 0 +0 / -0 286

Nodrama,

My heart goes out to you as I have felt those same overwhelming feelings of guilt and shame. I tried moderation too and I wanted it to work so much. It did work until it didn't and then I had to add hiding my drinking to the mix. There is a way ahead. You can make it through your friend's visit and the wedding without alcohol and, you will feel much better for it. Each success builds our resolve. It feels like we can't live without alcohol and but the truth is that it makes our lives much more difficult. The first while is tough but so worth it to get to the other side. Sending you a big hug and lots of support!

for 8 år siden 0 +0 / -0 421

I guess I should also say that I'm feeling pretty defeated too. Plus I have a friend coming in from out of town at the end of the month and in September I have a wedding I have to go too. Overwhelmed. I was feeling so strong. Then bam. No I'm feeling really weak and alone. I love my family so much and was so proud of how I had been doing. Now just disappointment. Ok. Pity party over.

for 8 år siden 0 +0 / -0 421

Hi all!

So, I am posting on urges because I feel that my want for booze has kicked in again. I am failing now at moderating. I feel that I am spiraling again. So---I'm coming here to confess and get my head back on straight. I had a drink in the afternoon recently....scared the crap out of me. Then yesterday I went out and bought a 12 of watermelon-rita drinks. I had them last night. I didn't intend on it. I was just going to have one while my husband had a cigar....then I started hiding it....then I was all in acting stupid, drinking....this morning my husband found the empties...and boy was he hot. I got the whole lecture. What a bad person I am. It's like I cheated on him. He can never trust me. I've ruined our nightly couple time because of this....He threw the book at me as he should. I lied to him. I hid things from him and most of all I broke my promise to him and myself. I am going to give abstaining a go. I think it's the best for me. I agree with flipflopmom I don't like myself very much when alcohol is involved. I don't know what I was thinking that I could continue to moderate. It's just a dance a lie to myself. If someone can moderate and continue it successfully that's great but, I have decided I can't and it's was just a matter of time until I came unglued again. Not going back down the rabbit hole. I cannot put myself or my family through that nonsense again. I may need some encouragement though, because I know me and I'll try to talk myself into moderating again in a few weeks....but it will just end up the same way. sucks.

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