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for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 11226

Hi Aussiegal,

You are certainly not alone in your thinking. Some people relate quitting smoking to breaking up with a bad boyfriend. You know it is bad for you but it can be a little heart breaking to let it go. However with time you will look back at this "break up" and think, "what was I thinking?!" You will get there. Have you started working on the program? It will help you get there.

Brenda and breather offered you great advice. Be sure to post often in the forums. Members here will help you to reframe your thinking around smoking. Also remember, this is an addiction you are fighting. The Nicodemon will tell you all sorts of lies to try to get you back to smoking. Don't listen. Know why this is important to you and remind yourself whenever you can. Check out Milestone 2 - "My benefits to Quitting" page this will help motivate you.

Why is quitting important to you?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 816

Good day aussiegirl , evening for you. No you're not an idiot. We just have addict thinking. The addict is telling you how good it used to be , how enjoyable it was , and 100 other things to bring you back to being a daily smoker. We have to learn how to live all over again without that cigarette. Remember the last time you had a cold or the flu and you tried to smoke and could hardly hold it in and just about coughed your lung out ? Was that a fond memory of smoking ? , I don't think so. Smoking stopped being enjoyable for me long ago. The after dinner cigarette was no longer enjoyable being just more of the same. I remember my first cigarette and my last with everything in between being uneventful. I can still remember that first one burning my lungs and the last ones were particularly stale which didn't leave me anything to look back on with fondness. Smoking gives you nothing and will take everything you've got. Has smoking really given you anything substancial ? When we're babies we have to learn how to walk and talk and we don't do it all in one day. So it's baby steps for us. First drive in the car , first party smoke free , first coffee of the day are all things we can appreciate without a smoke. Wave goodbye to thoughts of smoking in the rear view mirror because we're not smoking today. Imagine three weeks smoke free ! Totally awesome. Incredible isn't boring. Tell yourself that no matter what I won't smoke today. You're the most important person here. Excellent for you. breather
My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 11/11/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 679
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 33,950
Amount Saved: $16,296.00
Life Gained:
Days: 123 Hrs: 20 Mins: 7 Seconds: 42

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 23

Dear Brenda,

Thank you sooo much for throwing me a life line so quickly. You are probably right...we become addicted and then think we enjoy it not vise versa. In weak moments though, it certainly doesn't seem that way. We tell ourselves that smoking wasnt that bad, and we really enjoyed it. I feel like Imnuts because I have these conversations playingin my head...smoke...no! I don't need it...It won't be bad...just a puff...I am a non smoker etc I know you know what Im talking about. I really hope that these mental conversations dontneed to go on forever. It is DRAINING!

I probably should find a hobby. It seems like a good idea. I guess I am feeling weaker because I am on holidays from work at the moment and have way too much timeon my hands to think...hahaha! Work is usually crazy and takes over my life so for the first three weeks, I didnt struggle along too much. Now with nothing to distract me Im more conscious of the fact that I am not smoking. In two weeks I'll be back at work and Ill probably cope better. In the meantime, I might look into taking up a hobby during the hols. I have no skills and am not creative so knitting, drawing etc will be no good for me. I love photos and have had no time to work on my scrapbooking so I can do that. Thanks for steering me in the right direction Brenda. I really appreciate it:-)

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1904

Aussiegal, I've been a member of this site long enough to know that we all felt like you do earlier on in our quits. Smoking was a big part of our lives. Look a how many puffs the average smoker takes in a day, a year. We miss it when we give it u, may even become a little depressed for a few days. Believe me, it all passes. Soon you will discover that your life really is no different with or without the cigarettes--at least not until you make some effort to change it. You probably have a little more time now that you are not light up. Yo might want to become more active--go for more walks, jog, swim, dance. Maybe take up another kind of hobby--knitting, painting, drawing. Take a course. Learn a new language. However, I do think you are wrong about one thing: It's no likely that you became addicted because you liked smoking. It's more likely that you believe you like smoking because you became addicted. The addict loves the addiction and needs to have it fed and convinces you to do so by telling you how much you love it, but can you really love something that is literally killing you? Or do you just feel compelled to do it? Right now, you are still struggling to stay clean. It really, really will get easier. The cravings will get farther and farther apart as you keep the addict a bay. As you learn new coping skills, life will become fun again and never again will you have to risk your life to care for the failings of an addict.
My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 5/1/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 508
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 14,224
Amount Saved: $6,045.20
Life Gained:
Days: 57 Hrs: 2 Mins: 38 Seconds: 53

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 23

Okay so I just made it to week 3...21 days quit today (I'm from the land down under and hate that my meter shows that I am only 20 days bc every little bit counts lol!). Up till now I have definitely had some challenging moments that have truly only lasted a short period of time and I could cope with. The cravings or memories have usually hit on the 'firsts'...first time I jumped in the car without lighting up, first time I finished a meal and didnt light up, first time I went out to a party yadi yadi ya ya....

Today I am freaking out! Im starting to wonder if I really want to be a non smoker. Life was fun when I smoked (or so im telling myself). Life is boring without smoking and Im missing it today:-(

Don't get me wrong...I dont want to light up and I dont think I will but Im really sad and feeling teary. I just feel like smoking was such a big part of me that Im kinda lost without it. I feel a bit angry as well that smoking is sooo bad for us bc I did obviously enjoy it at some stage which is why I became addicted. I hate the way my clothes reaked, the money I wasted smoking and the way I started weazing and struggling for air. Despite this, today I want to have a tantrum and say GEE (haha resisteing the urge to swear)....this is not easy!!!!

I started smoking when I was younger and had run away from home. I guess it was my way of rebelling?!? Now I just feel like Ive conformed and I hate it! I feel like Im just doing the right thing and yes Im doing the right thing for myself but Im kinda bored of it! Is that messed up thinking or what? I feel stupid even typing these words but that's where Im at at the moment. Does anyone get me? Has anyone felt this way or am I a total tool?

I just want to find a way to sort out this issue Im having and put this kind of thinking behind me; get it out of my head and stop thinking like this. Day 21... I cant believe that this is how Im feeling! I really hope that it doesnt become stronger b/c I dont want to light up! Feedback needed and appreciated:)

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