You know, i have a knee jerk cringe when I see anything that says that you shouldn't have "something.." becuase we've been told our entire lives that if we deny ourselves, then we crave even more, and so we should have some of everything in moderation. (This is going somewhere - so bear with me)
We've also been told that we need to love ourselves just the way that we are in order to be able to loose weight. You all know the things that we've been told and told ourselves in response to the way that the media portrays thin people and fat people.
I was reading a book last week that put a whole new spin on it, and i'm still having dificulty wrapping my mind around the concept, and it's hard for me to "get" because i've just come to be brainwashed the other way all of this time, and I guess that isn't working for me.
The idea was that yes you love yourself the way that you are, but that loving yourself does not include sitting aorund eating crap and getting fatter nd fatter because fat isn't healthy, happy, or loving. So, if you have convinced yourself that you are fine the way that you are and that you love yourself the way that you, and the way that you are is fat, and not eating, drinking, or excercising well - then you are lying to yourself. That's not love. You are talking the talk but no walking the walk, because to treet yourself lovingly means being healthy.
So, back to my knee jerk cringe then. It makes sense to not deny yourself anything, but what if the way we dealt with that was all wrong? What if instead of altering our behavior to not deny ourselves (Ie: have some in moderation - like that ever works for anyone), we altered our thinking?
Dr Phil says all of the time that you can do whatever you want, and I don't think that ever really sunk in until just recently. I am choosing not to smoke, not denying myself cigarettes, so what if i choose not to have anymore chocolate, and wasn't being denied chocolate because I have diabetes? I can stil eat chocolate.. but if I want to love myself, and be happy, and healthy and have a good blood sugar level, then I choose not to have it. So, what's to be denied?
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 45
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,512
[B]Amo