DL ... I don't recall where I mentioned it, but I do get the commitment to not hurt others. I'm sober too (more than 20 years now) and I haven't hit another person after my 2nd year of sobriety. That has been part of my recovery ... "No hitting". I realize that words are actually more hurtful (bruises heal, words fester), but the self management is the same. Good for you!! We may not always be able to control our words, but [b]wanting[/b] to do the right thing goes a long way toward healing any slip ups.
I know that one ... If I snap at Shell, I immediately feel like a total jerk. If I hurt her feelings, I feel lower than snake spit. I honestly do not want to hurt anyone anymore. She knows that is true, and when I mess up, she accepts my apology because it is truly sincere.
That's an awesome thing to be thankful for today, actually. I think I'll borrow that one from you. :) I'm so glad I'm not the b*tch I was. I've learned the difference between assertive and aggressive, I'm still no pushover, but I'm not a bully either. Damn, it feels good to wake up and know that yesterday I was kind to the people I love! :)
Wildcat ... you are a deep one! I need more coffee to get my grey matter to fully process your mantra. ;p Actually, I do agree that love just is. Those who truly love us (as opposed to using us to fulfill some emotional agenda) are not wrong. And anyone who works as hard as you obviously do at self understanding has got to be a good soul. Bad people don't care, I believe. That alone makes you deserving of love, imho. :)
